Is Good Enough Ever Just Good Enough?

by DeeAnne on 30/09/2011

I have a girlfriend, who we’ll call Ava. Ava is smart, beautiful, slender, has enjoyed tremendous career and financial success, has a lovely home, and has a wide circle of friends that adore her. So Ava and I were talking not long ago, and she asked a question that I simply couldn’t answer. “Is good enough ever just good enough?”

Ava has spent her life not settling. She wants only the best, and when she doesn’t have it, she goes out and gets it. And she’s exhausted. There’s never been one moment that Ava could sit back and just enjoy. There’s always one more thing to work on perfecting. She doesn’t even want to think about why she isn’t yet married. Had she looked past the ideal mate because his nose was only ‘good enough’?

So what do you think, is good enough ever just good enough?

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Vanessa@Luxuria September 30, 2011 at 17:33

Wow! I sometimes I worry I might be Ava (perhaps not as extreme). Hubby calls me a “perfectionistic junkie”. “Good enough” to me implies that you have “settled” before your actual target. In that case, “good enough” is not enough for me. It needs to always be “better” or “the best” I can do, obtain, create etc.
Perhàps that’s my problem right there in that last sentence ;-)

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DeeAnne October 1, 2011 at 10:02

I think we all suffer from a bit of the “Ava Syndrome”! Some of us know it, and have made lifestyle adjustments to keep things in check, yes???

I hope your weekend is perfect Vanessa! xo

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cheryl September 30, 2011 at 20:07

A similarly exhausted friend of mine said she couldn’t stop the more-better-best program because, if she stopped for a moment, she’d unravel. I thought about Newton’s law – a body stays in motion till acted on by an outside force. I think sometimes it’s not about “what” is good enough but am “I” good enough. BTW, I know I’m not Ava because of the slender part.
xo

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DeeAnne October 1, 2011 at 10:05

I think unraveling, or even becoming a slacker, is the big worry…like there’s nothing in between perfect and loser??

So good to hear from you Cheryl, and I’ll never tell who Ava is, but you know darn well you’re slender enough to be her…but you are married. lol

Lots of love to the fam! xxx

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Susan Nye October 2, 2011 at 00:47

D – Instead of good enough I set my sights on perfect enough. This philosophy works for me – I aim high but stay grounded. Perfect enough is not about settling, it’s about embracing wonderful, remarkable people even if one laughs too loud, another is a terrible cook and that one has a crooked nose. (Wait a minute – that last one, that would be me.) It’s about doing great work and accomplishing amazing things even if a a typo slips through on page 7. It saves me from beating a project to death and myself senseless with worry and doubt. It keeps me open to adventures, people and change. I am grateful for all the good people and things in my life … endless striving for better or perfection sounds like an exhausting waste of time. Take care and have fun, S.

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DeeAnne October 2, 2011 at 07:07

Hello Susan,

I absolute adore your philosophy! I think I might have to steal it myself.

Thank you for sharing your wonderful insight.

Very best,
D

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Heidi October 5, 2011 at 16:38

You always give me so much to contemplate…
I recently discovered your blog, and I am loving all your posts.
You present me with things I’ve never thought about, and always put a smile on my face. Right now I’m loving this quote from one of your previous posts. “Bloom where your are planted.”

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DeeAnne October 21, 2011 at 16:20

Awwww, thank you Heidi!

Very best,
DeeAnne

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sandy@oohlafroufrou October 11, 2011 at 15:10

Balance in everything seems to be the answer. As long as you have time to relax and enjoy life and the fruits of your labor. If not, something’s gotta give is what I say! xo

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DeeAnne October 21, 2011 at 16:09

So true Sandy! (and so nice to have you back from your sabbatical!)

xoxo

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RaynaSybelle April 13, 2012 at 03:08

I think that there comes a point where perfection is futile. We need to be able to look past some imperfections and be content with the good that is already there.

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V August 3, 2013 at 18:01

It all depends on what is mission critical to you, in my opinion. I think if you can narrow your search for perfection to top 3, and your next Mister has all three boxes ticked, perhaps he is your Mr. Perfect “enough”….

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