100 Ways to Have More Romance in Your Life

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1. Believe in your own version of a very modern fairy tale, and go find it

2. Have your morning coffee in bed, while listening to “Zou Bisou Bisou 

3. Have breakfast in bed on Sunday mornings, while listening to Diana Krall and reading the New York Times

4. Wear lovely lingerie

5. Wear beautiful nightgowns and pajamas

6. Replace your bedroom slippers with these

7. Wear dresses at home, and on weekends

8. Watch “Casablanca” (1942) on a school night

9. Or “Summertime” (1955)

10. Or “The Philadelphia Story” (1940)

11. Or “The Tourist” (2010)

12. Or “Enchanted April” (1992)

13. Light candles when you arrive home, rather than turning on all the lights in the house

14. Enjoy a glass of wine and some jazz after work, rather than turning on the television

15. Listen to “So Nice “by Stacey Kent

16. Listen to anything in French by Francoise Hardy

17. Or anything at all by Billie Holiday

18. Read more Byron

19. Read more Keats

20. Read more Neruda

21. Keep fresh flowers on your nightstand

22. And a copy of “Anna Karenina” (Leo Tolstoy)

23. And a diffuser with an exotic fragrance

24. Dress your bed in sheets that you love slipping between

25. Travel to Africa

26. Travel to India

27. Travel to Italy

28. Travel from London to Venice on the Orient Express

29. Read “Love in the Time of Cholera” by Gabriel García Márquez

30. And “Wuthering Heights” by Emily Bronte

31. And “Dr. Zhivago” by Boris Pasternak

32. And “The Age of Innocence” by Edith Wharton

33. And “Out of Africa” by Isak Dinesen

34. Use Nigella Lawson’s latest book “Nigellisima” as your cooking inspiration

35. And the loungey cool Sublime Music London soundtrack featured on the BBC programme sets the mood for a very romantic dinner afterwards

36. Slip into something beautiful after work

37. Wind down in the evening with Candlelight Yoga (a personal favourite)

38. Be comfortable being a woman, and being in your own skin

39. Take a cooking class and fall in love with food

40. Take a wine tasting course and fall in love with wine

41. Attend a photography workshop and fall in love with the world

42. Attend an art gallery opening and just appreciate the artist’s work

43. Take the Manet to Picasso audio tour at the National Gallery in London

44. Listen to the National Gallery’s monthly podcast during a lunch break

45. Have a Spanish picnic of bread, Iberico Bellota, Manchego, olives, salad and Rioja for dinner on a lazy Thursday night

46. Visit Fundu Lagoon, Zanzibar Archipelago, Tanzania

47. Visit Four Seasons Koh Samui

48. Learn to sketch

49. Learn to play the Spanish guitar

50. Eat outside on the terrace as often as possible

51. Have cafe au lait and croissants with jam for breakfast

52. Go to the Farmer’s Market in Ascot, and stroll down to Fego Caffee for a cappuccino

53. Have a glass of wine by a roaring fire

54. Write a poem

55. Write a short story about a chance meeting

56. Write a love letter to the object of your desire, even if you never send it

57. Take a tour of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s Paris

58. Take a tour of Hemingway’s Cuba

59. Take afternoon tea at the Fairmont Empress in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada

60. Move to a cottage by the sea

61. Or to a stone house in the countryside

62. Or to another country

63. Learn to speak Italian

64. Or Spanish

65. Or Portugese

66. Drive along the rugged coast of Ireland

67. Or Big Sur

68. Hike the hilly coast of Scotland

69. Or the Jurassic coast of England

70. Have a wee dram on The Royal Scotsman

71. Go to the races at Glorious Goodwood

72. Or Del Mar, and stay at L’Auberge Del Mar

73. Meet for drinks at Zuma, in London or Miami

74. Or Claridge’s, in London

75. Or Truluck’s in Naples. Florida

76. Or Campiello in Naples, Florida

77. Begin the weekend with a glass of Prosecco as soon as you’re home on Friday night

78. Begin a Sunday night bath ritual, with music, to make the weekend last just a little bit longer

79. Wear your favourite perfume to bed

80. Eat outside at a cafe and people watch

81. Talk to strangers

82. Walk along the beach more often, no matter what time of year

83. Listen to jazz in New Orleans

84. Or Chicago

85. Or Paris

86. Make Nigella’s sexy Spaghetti Alla Carbonara for one…or for two…and serve in bed

87. Put twinkle lights on your indoor and outdoor trees, and turn them on for no reason at all

88. Attend live theatre more often

89. Fall in love with yourself first

90. Then fall in love with someone else

91. And when you do, don’t be afraid

92. And understand that the disagreements are an integral part of the plot

93. And so is the making up

94. Send very romantic texts

95. And some sexy ones, as well

96. And remember, it only gets old if you let it

97. Enjoy all of the ebbs and flows that come with a life well lived

98. And love as much as you possibly can

99. Until you get it right

100. And above all else, let the cynics and the critics say what they may, but never forget that life is so much better with romance in it


Photo: Kate Upton, Vogue June 2013 by Mario Testino.

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15 thoughts on “100 Ways to Have More Romance in Your Life”

  1. Thank you DeeAnne for warming my heart tonight with this beautiful post! I often feel bored and lonely when I come back from my college-day in my student dorm or when I am simply “stuck” in my room with all the homework I have to do. I will try some of your tips!

    1. Hello Aude!
      I’m so happy that you enjoyed the post. I think we all have those days when the responsibilities of the world are all that we can see, and it helps to remember that there’s always beauty, fun and romance around us, if we can only take the time to see it.
      All my very best,
      DeeAnne xx

  2. Hello from Victoria, British Columbia, Canada! Thank you for the absolutely brilliant list… so many possibilities! I’ve checked a few of them off (and put multiple checkmarks beside ‘tea at the Empress’, of course) and there are so many others I plan to!

    1. Hello Kristia!

      How lucky you are to live in such a gorgeous location! I absolutely love it there, and can’t wait until I have the chance to return.

      Thank you, too, for the very kind comment about the recent post, and I look forward to hearing how the others work for you (and any others you would add!)

      Very best wishes,
      DeeAnne x

  3. Hello Deanne,

    Thank you for Enchanted April (1992). Truly a heartwarming movie.

    I’m from the Philippines. Given the economic instability we are perpetually facing here and that I’m 28 with a young family to support. It’s difficult sometimes to stop and unruffle my feathers. Your posts help me to listen more.

    Thank you for sharing, it means a lot.


    1. Hello Davy,

      Thank you so much for your kind comments, and I’m so happy that you enjoyed Enchanted April. Isn’t watching it almost like taking a little holiday yourself?

      I understand very well having a young family, and there being great economic uncertainty. I had very young children in the early 1980s, when economic times were also very difficult, and it was a challenge, at times, to find ways to stay on top of responsibilities, while also finding plenty of family time, fun and romance. I think those days were when I really honed the skills of enjoying the simple things, like turning off the television and video games and having a pizza and game night with the children or trading babysitting with friends so that my husband and I could share just a walk, a talk and a gelato. They are still some of my favourite memories, to be honest.

      I wish you all the very best, and look forward to staying in touch.

      Kind regards,

  4. Dear DeAnne,

    Yes, I agree. It’s like a little holiday. I think they wore the prettiest shoes too!
    Thank you for sharing a bit of your life, I’ve always thought your posts are genuine and well lived. May I be bold? I kind of look up to you as a secret mentor.

    I want to also share one of my simple pleasures, sometimes, I go to Catholic churches in off hours. Here or is it by plain serendipity, I always find an old lady praying. I like joining her silently in prayer for a minute then light up a candle as an offering. We have a saying that if your candle shine through until its wax run out your prayers will reach the heavens. So there are always candles lit up in churches here, each a hope to reach the sky.

    I’ll light a candle for you. I hope you continue to shine through.


    1. Hello Davy,

      What a very kind message, and a very thoughtful thing to do. I was very touched by your words, and I’m also Catholic and appreciate the gesture very much.

      My very best,

  5. Just found this blog. It’s gorgeous. So glad there’s someone else out there who’s concerned about the scarcity of elegance and grace in modern life. Eager to explore some more. Keep up the good work.

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